5 tips against your inner weaker self
You actually wanted to go for a walk and clean the booth, but your favorite pet, your inner bastard, disagrees. We remedy the situation!
You had big plans for today. You wanted to do some sport, shine your four walls and tackle income tax. But now that it’s time to get started, you can think of a thousand things that magically keep you from getting started. The weather is not the best today and you are also not feeling so well right now. So you’d better postpone it until tomorrow. Or the day after tomorrow or in 2 years.
These supposed reasons sound plausible to us. No wonder, as they give us a welcome opportunity to do our unloved job.advertising
“Our excuses sound most credible when we have talked them into it beforehand.” (Ernst Ferstl)
From a purely scientific point of view, it is nothing more than weak will. So we simply lack the self-discipline to do the tasks that we don’t really feel like doing when they should be done.
Sure, some things are in fact hardly fun for you and bring you no noticeable advantage, such as the tax return mentioned. With projects such as learning, reading or starting a diet, things look different. Here you would have a real benefit that is visible to all people, and yet you will not do it.
But how can you effectively starve out this supposed inner bastard that you have fed so well so far? You can implement the following tips immediately:
1.) Be honest with yourself!
First of all, you should get into the habit of admitting to yourself honestly if you put up any excuses yourself. Of course, this also applies if other people point this out to you.
Everyone knows such struggles with the inner self and you don’t become a bad person. On the contrary: you sharpen your senses and learn to be self-critical.
It is important that you stop persuading yourself of excuses as long as you believe them. Be honest with yourself: why aren’t you doing your job right now or not doing sports? Do you really have a real reason or just don’t feel like it?
2.) Take on yourself!
Just having in mind what you want to do today or tomorrow is only enough for the most disciplined among us to do all the tasks reliably. After all, it’s just vague projects that want to be realized. Without a time limit and without any obligation. What you need are clearly defined goals .
By doing this, on the one hand you conclude a kind of contract with yourself and on the other hand you know exactly what to do the next day. So no time to laze around.
3.) Give it a name!
Now you can be a little creative. Give your inner bastard a name – for example Karl-Gustav – and imagine it in the future simply as an old, lame dog, trotting next to you and wanting to keep you from your goals.
With this idea in your head, you may ask yourself 3 times in the future whether you really want to keep him away from anything and trot in front of you as well.
Of course, you can also reverse the principle and turn your hog and lively Russel terrier into a corner who wants to scare you around every day, depending on which variant helps you better.
4.) Think right!
Sure, you can think about it for a long time and ponder why you can’t get to it again today or why you don’t feel like doing this and that. And believe me, you will find enough reasons too. But unfortunately this is exactly the wrong direction, because that way you only confirm yourself.
So instead, in the future, try to do it the other way around and think about why you should do it. Maybe because of a potential raise, a better figure, or just to prove that you can do it.
5.) Find a partner!
If you do sports regularly or attend a course, for example, you probably already know this from yourself: with a training partner at your side, you can pull yourself up even if you don’t feel like it. Be it because your partner gives you legs or because you don’t want to shame him or her about having to cancel.
So think about whether someone could help you achieve your goals. Is there someone who can learn or train with you? Can your boyfriend or girlfriend support you?
In another article I have already written how important such a ” brain trust ” is for your own inner attitude. So try to gather a circle of people around you who motivate you and support you in your goals.
Our colloquial inner bastard describes the fact when you can’t really motivate yourself for things that you actually set out to do.
In order to start here effectively, you first have to admit that you just want to “pull yourself out of the affair” with excuses. Once you have taken this first step and stopped looking for the problem somewhere other than yourself, you can go straight to the bottom line:
Set clearly defined goals that you can control at any time, share them with others to increase the pressure on yourself and find people who will go your way with you. Support yourself by constantly keeping in mind why you want to achieve this or that goal and don’t take your “inner bastard” seriously.
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