Dissatisfied with himself
Sarah, a confident real estate agent, should be happy with everything she has achieved in her life so far. But despite all her career and material success, she is dissatisfied with herself. Even though she is considered extremely pretty in the eyes of people, she does not find herself perfect enough. Because it’s actually her secret dream to have a body like Jennifer Lopez. Because of her beauty, she is a coveted woman and, in addition to her top career, has appointments on Friday nights. But still … she firmly believes that if she had a character like this famous star, her life would be even more perfect.
After months in the gym and completing other training programs, Sarah is still unhappy with her looks. Everywhere she looks she sees beautiful, sexy and confident women who – at least in their opinion – are all the way they would like to be. She is full of envy and has little self-respect. Instead of feeling great after training in the gym, she still felt depressed and frustrated afterwards.
Unsatisfied with themselves due to a lack of self-acceptance
There is nothing wrong with the desire to look good. Everyone, of course, wants to look good on others and be accepted not only because of their character traits, but also because of their external appearance as they are. Nevertheless, despite their external appeal, many people do not accept themselves as they really are.
Why can’t many people be satisfied with themselves?
Why are so many people falling into the vanity trap and dissatisfied with themselves? The reason for this are external influences, such as television spots, advertisements in magazines, and also the Internet. Media hype and images affect women and men every day and unsettle them.
The reasons for dissatisfaction can just as well be elsewhere.
Many people are also uncertain about their status in the company and in society. Quite a few stories about company policy and competition are about envy, resentment and dissatisfaction. One is promoted, the other remains, so to speak, at the lower end of the food chain – is a statement that one hears again and again these days in companies with strong internal competitive pressure and competition. But apart from opportunities for advancement and better earning potential, other circumstances can also cause envy. A career woman who has to endure a lot of stress and fear in her job may be secretly jealous of a housewife’s life. On the other hand, a housewife could also feel inferior to a friend who moves in the business world.
Some try to mask these feelings of insecurity by wearing a “superiority mask”. Others express jealousy and insecurity through cynicism. Some even go so far as to withdraw and belittle themselves, while others take the path of fame and success – no matter how painful it is.
Depression, stress, anxiety and frustration are common companions for people who cannot accept themselves or who try to outperform others in an area where the others are actually far better than they could ever be.
Everyone is special
Not everyone can be a world famous star. But one thing is certain: every person is unique and has been blessed with gifts. The key to more self-esteem and self-acceptance is to discover these very unique, personal gifts. By activating one’s own skills, individual success no longer seems so absurd.
Whenever we fight stress, fear, and frustration with our personal goals, self-image, and life in general, it can be beneficial to remember that each of us has the ability to activate our inner strength, to develop its own potential and ultimately create the basis for complacency. Because complacency is possible if we recognize and develop our own strengths.
Recognize your own strengths
Therefore go inside and recognize your unique abilities that are dormant in you. Let your energy flow out of you. Stand by yourself and do not let external stimuli distract you from your individual path.
Remember material things are good, but outer things should never determine our happiness or self-esteem. If it is your need to improve your relationships, take action and take the first step. They say the only way to make a friend is to be one.
Learn the art of compromise. Feeling good also means maintaining good relationships with our families and the people around us.
But it is also good to know that we should not always go our own way at all costs. We should also be considerate of others’ needs and desires. The willingness to compromise is not a weakness, but a strength.
It is actually possible to overcome envy, jealousy, frustration, depression and dissatisfaction. But we have to start believing in ourselves and develop an optimistic view of life.
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