Do you understand your partner
Do you understand your partner You’d think that’s the case. But unfortunately many of us do not fully understand their partner. If it were, the number of separations and divorces would decrease significantly instead of increasing.
We have a good relationship – but does my partner really understand me?
You may be asking yourself if I don’t understand my partner, why do we have such a good relationship? Why does he or she like me? Why are we together Well, let’s take a closer look at the whole thing.
What does “understanding” mean? Again, this is a difficult question. Knowing likes and dislikes doesn’t mean understanding. Understanding means knowing a person’s values, life intentions and priorities. Understanding means knowing how events affect a person. Understanding means – being able to guess your partner’s reaction in certain situations. Can you do that with certainty?
At the beginning of our relationship, we all talk about the beautiful things in life. Our focus is more on pleasing the other. The focus is on having fun together. We don’t think about the underlying psychological motivators during this time.
When the relationship has developed a bit, we are sometimes amazed by what our partner says and vice versa. It is part of his or her character that we will never experience unless we talk about it. If this is something that we can easily accept, we will forget it, if not, cracks will form in the relationship from that point on.
Understanding and trust are the foundation of a happy relationship
Few partners are completely honest with each other in terms of their deepest thoughts, feelings, desires and fears. If someone is afraid that one day they may be abandoned because they doubt their partner’s long-term commitment, will they ever talk about that fear? Such subliminal thoughts form a wall between the partners that can never be crossed. Only a few manage to tear down this wall. However, once they do so and are ready to speak about their profound thoughts and feelings, the relationship will grow and deepen.
Such relationships are unfortunately rare, but if both partners recognize that trust is the foundation of every relationship, and trust is based on understanding, there is a great opportunity for them to have a happy relationship.
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