Don’t think, do it!
Our brain is a real miracle of nature. We can solve even the most difficult tasks in the shortest possible time. But the thinking apparatus is often in the way when we break things up instead of just trying them out.
I am often asked what successful people actually do differently. It is thought that these people are probably just more talented or have had more luck somewhere in life. The list can go on and on, as we are known to be true masters in finding reasons why we didn’t do it ourselves.
The biggest difference, however, is a very simple one: Successful and happy people – whether in business, business or private life – rarely ask themselves whether something is feasible or not. They just try, even if they fail.advertising
The danger of “disintegration”
Unfortunately, we are often pretty creatures of habit. It is far from us to decide things whose outcome we cannot at least roughly outline beforehand.
This behavior was mostly taught to us by our parents in childhood. You know, we are all responsible for our actions and “everyone is a blacksmith of their own happiness” and such.
Now come a maybe a little less pronounced self-esteem and a few sayings à la “You can not do it! / This is not for you! ”From the social environment , it quickly becomes difficult with positive thinking .
Dreams, wishes and visions quickly become thoughts that can look like this:
- “I would like to study, but I don’t really know if I can do it.”
- “My parents say I won’t make it and should do something else.”
- “I’m afraid that this will go wrong.”
- and so on …
First of all, such thoughts are of course important. We shouldn’t really implement all of the ideas and plans that buzz around in our heads. So it is certainly a great idea to get away from society for 1-2 years, to quit your job and apartment and to leave everything behind, but that would be something that you should think carefully about beforehand.
Rather, it is about risks and decisions in life that do not actually pose any serious danger, but are still thought through by us as if human existence would depend on it.
“Whoever plays can lose. If you don’t play, you’ve already lost. ”(Bertolt Brecht)
For example, we often think for days and weeks whether we want to have a relationship with someone instead of just listening to our guts and trying. In the end, we didn’t dare and ask ourselves a lifetime whether we shouldn’t have tried better.
It is therefore better to think through such “low-risk decisions” using a simplified scheme:
1.) Color in the worst case scenario
Get in the habit of asking yourself the question of what could possibly happen in the worst case. Here are a few examples:
- You want to do further training.
In the worst case, you fail the exam, then you can do it in the 2nd or 3rd attempt. If not, you’ve lost time that you probably wouldn’t have used more wisely. And nobody can take away the knowledge you have gained.
- You are afraid of a new relationship.
In the worst case, the relationship will fail after you have had days, weeks, months or even years with nice moments in it.
You should always keep one thing in mind: If your decision is not to jump out of the 5th floor of your house, in the worst case, little will happen.
Sure, failure will always hit you somehow, but the world won’t go down.
2.) Include your own experiences
Honestly, how many bad experiences have you had in your life? Probably more than enough, like all of us. But still you are still there and reading these lines.
And that’s the point! Always be aware of how often you have made wrong decisions and how little they really harmed you in the end.
Whether it was a time when you were not financially well, whether you had just lost a job or a relationship ended: in the end, you did it again and gained your experience from it.
3.) Ask yourself a simple question
When a decision is in front of you, ask yourself what you could live with better:
- Don’t do it and always ask yourself what your life would be like if you tried and made it.
- Try it, fail if necessary, but know the rest of your life that you have left nothing unturned.
There is no right or wrong answer here. One like this, the other like that. Personally, it would drive me crazy to have to constantly ask myself whether I shouldn’t have tried this or that better, but as I said, everyone ticks differently.
Everyday life will always present you with decisions. Our life’s work is an endless atlas of ways and possibilities. Which one you take and which you don’t, is up to you.
It is best to get used to not thinking unnecessarily long about things that, in the end, hardly anything bad can happen. Listen to your stomach, your intuition and only carefully weigh up decisions where there is a real existential or health risk.
We humans tend to crush the smallest and most insignificant choices in life until we finally find enough reasons not to.
We often decide against our gut feeling and miss out on many really good opportunities in life. Successful people don’t. They also make decisions that run the risk of going wrong. Simply knowing that success can only come to life through trial and error.
So get into the habit of asking yourself the question of what can actually happen in the worst case and remembering how you have already managed to fail in life.
You don’t have time for many decisions in life, some chances come only once. So ask yourself if you can handle asking yourself all your life if you shouldn’t have tried it better.
So, don’t think, but do it!
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