Establish and maintain interpersonal relationships
Interpersonal relationships are often not easy. Building and maintaining a loving relationship requires some important traits and behaviors.
When you love someone, the feeling of love is not always as strong. It is impossible to love another person in the same way all the time. If you claim that the feelings you feel for others are always the same, you are fooling yourself and other people. Rather, it is an illusion that springs from your thinking.
Life is very complex, and this is particularly true of our emotional world. Dealing with feelings is often not easy. A lot of insight and sensitivity is required to understand love and the feelings involved.
Humans are extremely vulnerable beings. Interpersonal relationships that started hopefully and joyfully often end in disappointment and bitterness.
At the beginning, many are fascinated and enthusiastic about the strangeness of the other and after a short time, the relationship ends in disillusion and you are amazed at what you saw in the other.
Many interpersonal relationships are formed out of fear of being alone, loneliness or out of a crisis.
All of these relationships are weak and have been shown to rarely turn out to be harmonious and lasting.
Life without human relationships is impossible
From the beginning there has been a feeling of desire, of mutual attraction and togetherness between man and woman. From the time of birth, people are related and dependent on each other.
It starts with the mother-child relationship. In the further course of life, people begin to establish further relationships, until finally a whole network of interpersonal contacts has developed.
A child who experiences no attention and love slips into psychosis. As an adult, this person fixes himself on his partner, he seeks happiness, care and togetherness from him, and easily gets into a relationship of dependence.
This dependency is often taken for granted and normal. It is very sad to observe that many people, especially in desperate crisis situations, such as death, divorce or separation , blindly stick to thought and behavior patterns that do not prove to be helpful in dealing constructively with the crisis and the pain of loss. Instead, they only increase suffering and isolation.
We should strive in life to develop a sustainable relationship and appreciate the attempts made so far. A relationship filled with love contributes to our well-being and self-development . It is a source of inspiration for health and growth.
Learn from failed relationships
Before a relationship can develop successfully, we need to understand how it works. It is therefore useful to learn from failed relationships and to take the time to analyze them carefully.
Likewise, a loving relationship should not be taken for granted. This way of thinking only leads to grief and suffering.
forms of relationship
It is important to know what kind of relationship you are willing and able to do. A basic distinction is made between two different forms of relationships . These are the deeper, intense (primary) relationship and the superficial (secondary) relationship.
The primary relationship is defined as the close contact with a person or a group of people on a regular basis in daily life. While the secondary relationship is less everyday and more habitual.
A primary relationship can be a heterosexual or same-sex partnership. Others think primarily of their family members in a primary relationship. Some people see their most important reference partner in their pets.
Important characteristics in a relationship
Whatever the nature of the relationship, the most important qualities in a primary relationship are affection, empathy, and communication. On the other hand, relationship killers prove to be a lack of communication, jealousy and disrespect.
Communication is a very important factor in secondary relationships. However, some of the following properties are also important:
- The ability to forgive
- Affection – understanding
- sense of humor
Features that can destroy any interpersonal relationship are:
- Lack of communication
- lack of courtesy
- Lack of understanding and empathy
- Condemnation, evaluation
As you can see, loving interpersonal relationships require a whole range of qualities, abilities and behaviors, regardless of whether it is the relationship with a life partner, with family members, with friends, with children, with work colleagues or with the closest neighbor.
Search for love deep in your heart before you enter into a relationship with another person.
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