The fear of rejection blocks our self-development
After all, we are all in the world to develop ourselves and live our true potential. Unfortunately, the reality is different. What’s stopping us?
Every now and then we have the desire to break out, to abandon the given paths, and to go our own way, perhaps because the present life situation does not satisfy us and we are not happy. We feel the need to free ourselves from given ways of thinking, constraints and rules and would like to lead a life according to their own ideas.
The fear of rejection sits in the subconscious
But most people lack the courage and self-confidence to shape their lives according to their own wishes. They are entangled in dependencies and behaviors and are afraid to fall out of line and stand out as outsiders. Who cries with the wolves, it has supposedly easier in life, because he does not offend and the other offers no friction surface. It is more convenient to adapt and to align your life according to the given ways of thinking and norms. But for that the individual pays a high price. The fear of rejection, of criticism and condemnation sits very deep in our subconscious.
He who suppresses his true desires and needs for fear of rejection and criticism of others, does not live his own life, but rather is a prisoner of himself. His self-development is blocked.
Have you ever wondered why so many people go through life frustrated and unfulfilled? And why so many people are aggressive and irritable? The answer is amazingly simple and psycho-logical. Because they are not filled with life, and most of all because they do not live their “true self”.
Anyone who denies his true self again and again for fear of the reactions and judgments of other people can even become very ill. He goes through life like a robot and his soul is empty. He is basically a working thing. Externally everything seems to be all right, because he fulfills his duty, he works, he is inconspicuous and adapted, but what he lacks is the love of life. But a life without love is neither desirable nor worth living.
Over time, we’ve been brainwashed by persuading ourselves that other people’s opinions are worth more than our own feelings and needs. We are afraid of rejection , of the reactions and judgments of others. However, if you want to abandon old habits and behaviors and change something, you should not let other people guide you. You should listen to your inner voice and act out of your inner self.
IT IS YOUR LIFE!
Criticism is basically nothing wrong. But you should not be afraid of criticism , but rather be able to interpret the criticism correctly. Watch out! Ask yourself if there is anything true about what someone is saying. Does he know what he’s talking about? If you decide after careful consideration that this is the case, then use the feedback to improve and develop. But if your feeling tells you that the other is wrong, ignore what he says. Be honest with yourself and accept only opinions that adhere to the truth!
Do not be afraid of self-criticism. But make sure that it’s your opinions, not those of others. If you do not like something about you, or your current life situation makes you unhappy, then change it. Be always ready to improve yourself and your life situation.
Sometimes our self-criticism and our self-perception are distorted. That’s because we were brainwashed. Others have fed and influenced us over the years with information that has changed our thinking over time. We went through the process of imprinting. Through this process, we have departed from our true essence. In the time when we did not bother to track down the truth, our thoughts have turned into a messy desk where we can not find the document we need.
It is time to clear up the mess and put the opinions and criticisms of others in the right balance. This is the only way to be able to change our habits and behaviors, to develop ourselves and thus improve our lives.
Self-development is only possible if we overcome the fear of rejection , criticism and condemnation by other people and develop the courage and self-confidence to shape life out of our inner self.