We all have a sometimes remarkable repertoire of beliefs that we use subconsciously in everyday life without questioning them. I’ll show you where they come from and how you should deal with them in the future.
Each of us has our own attitudes and opinions about our environment and about ourselves. These beliefs are firmly anchored in the head and correspond to what we feel as right or true.
We either taught ourselves these generalizations or were inoculated with us by our social environment until we eventually accepted them as true.advertising
Why do we use beliefs?
Beliefs are a very meaningful development of nature. They help us not to constantly have to reassess every situation, but to be able to fall back on past experiences .
For example, you know very well that you will burn your fingers if you reach the hot stove. Your parents taught you and you’ve probably even had the painful experience yourself.
Such beliefs as the one just mentioned naturally make sense. Beliefs can also be negative and restrict us in our development and our life.
What beliefs harm us?
Surely you have internalized such negative generalizations too. A few examples you may find yourself in:
- “I’m a bad runner / I’m ugly.”
- “I’m not good in German / I can’t read well.”
- “The others are luckier than I am.”
- “I won’t make it.”
- “Money spoils the character.”
- “There is no real love.”
We use such – sometime internalized – sentences unconsciously in everyday life without questioning whether the corresponding belief is actually true.
At school, for example, you were a rather bad runner, which is why you have been telling yourself since then that you still could not, although you never tried to do it later.
Or the beliefs that have been copied over and over again by the parents, such that the neighbor only earns twice and three times as much because he simply had more luck in life.
How do I track this thought down?
Get in the habit of questioning your views and beliefs from time to time. What was still true yesterday does not necessarily have to be right today and tomorrow.
Just because you were n’t a good runner at school doesn’t mean you won’t even be.
You should also avoid adopting beliefs from other people. Always ask yourself whether you really want to trust this opinion and see that you form your own opinion about it. Incidentally, this also applies to the media: do not believe everything that is in the newspaper or on TV. Check out several media and use them to create your own opinion.
You should be sensitive when you notice such generalizations yourself or think in good German in drawers . If you notice such sentences, try to analyze them objectively, whether they really correspond to reality.
Just ask yourself more often why you think about something as you think.
What can I do about negative beliefs?
Let us assume that you are firmly convinced that all men (or women) are dishonest and therefore you will never find your dream partner. With this belief you live your everyday life, behave accordingly and expect nothing else. After all, it’s true in your eyes.
Think about whether you can substantiate this to yourself. Are all of your friends, family and acquaintances dishonest to each other? Are there no sincere relationships there? Can you use empirical evidence to prove that your belief is true?
Of course you can’t. You simply persuaded yourself to do it at some point because you have been cheated once or several times and now it is the easiest procedure for you to continue to shave all men / women together in the future.
Does it help you? No, because you are guaranteed to stay alone.
A second example: Your parents instilled in you as a child that success and wealth are reserved for very few people and that you need luck and the necessary contacts.
You took that at face value and therefore haven’t even tried to make a career yourself.
Now we also look here if there is anything true about the sentence. Is there really no one who, despite such sayings, has done his thing and worked his way up?
Of course there are, you will probably even find examples among your friends. Or read the biographies of personalities like Steve Jobs , Henry Ford , Angela Merkel or Warren Buffett . They often came from poor lists and still did their thing.
How is it better
Get in the habit of questioning your existing beliefs and erasing the clearly refutable ones from your mind.
Question why you have a certain opinion on something, whether it really corresponds to the truth and whether it is still up to date. Work with positive beliefs such as:
- “Even if I was cheated, every person is different.”
- “I can achieve anything I want!”
- “I really don’t look that bad.”
- “I am achieving my goals”
Always keep one thing in mind: what you tell yourself will also come true because you work subconsciously on a daily basis. (see: Self-fulfilling prophecy )
Beliefs are generalizations that we have memorized at some point. They accompany us through our lives and ensure that we do not have to reassess every situation, but can fall back on existing experiences.
These beliefs are often untrue, they slow us down or lead us on the wrong track, which is why you have to regularly ask whether one or the other generalization from the past is still relevant today or whether it corresponds to reality at all.
You should mentally dispose of untrue or out-of-date beliefs and replace them with positive beliefs, since our brain subconsciously works towards making our beliefs true.
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