How can I let go of my partner after the separation?
Unfortunately, many people cannot let go of their partner after the separation.
Especially if they thought that the relationship had worked perfectly so far, they find it very difficult to accept separation.
Relationship counselors and experts in this area have dealt intensively with the topic of partnership and separation for years and have worked out solutions.
While it may seem difficult to put some of these tips into practice at first glance, it is important to do so. Because if we learn how to properly deal with separations, we can save ourselves a lot of unnecessary suffering.
If you follow some advice and make the effort to put it into practice, it can be easy to learn how to deal with a separation.
The fact of separation always buzzes around in your head. The seemingly never ending question “WHY?” Concerns you all the time. Even at night in your dreams these thoughts appear.
Most of the time we feel guilty after the breakup. Even if there are actually some things that we could blame ourselves for, we shouldn’t let these feelings of guilt eat us up.
It is important that you do not concentrate fully on what you did wrong. No one is perfect.
You should also think about what you disliked about your ex-partner. What bothered you about him or her? Has he or she wrongly blamed you? Has he or she repeatedly brought up arguments that actually had nothing to do with the current situation?
After a breakup, it is not uncommon to just remember the good times. If you think back, you shouldn’t hide the difficulties and problems in the relationship.
This truth can hurt, but someone has to say it: The statement “but I love my ex-partner and I want him back (* sob)” does not take you one step further. Okay, you still love your ex-partner, but he broke up with you. Obviously he doesn’t love you anymore. This is the most common reason why relationships break up. It’s the phrase “I don’t love you anymore” or any variant of that phrase. You have probably heard it first hand. Do you really want someone back who doesn’t feel like you, someone who has no feelings for you, who no longer loves you?
Another great way to deal with a breakup is to use your social contacts. You probably know some people around you who support you. Friends family or good friends can help you to lighten your mood. Meet new people. Do something new, do something you enjoy. There are a thousand other things than hanging out, sitting on the couch in front of the TV, or lying in bed all the time and blowing the tribulation.
Dealing with a separation can be a character-building experience. If you realize that your happiness does not depend on someone else, you will get over it faster.
If you reflect on yourself, live your true potential and feel good and satisfied, you will actually be more attractive to others. It’s kind of ironic, but it is indeed true. The more satisfied you are with others, the greater the chance of meeting someone who is interested in sharing their life with you.
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