How can I survive a breakup?
Two tips to survive a breakup.
Coping with a breakup is never easy. There are a hundred different things you can do to make the separation phase more bearable, some of which are also very helpful. But they don’t change the fact that a breakup is very painful and that this phase can take a long time.
The pain of separation is most intense immediately after separation. Often we have no idea that the relationship is coming to an end, and we are completely surprised and shocked when it really breaks. As soon as the shock subsides, feelings of sadness and pain appear.
These feelings are completely natural, even if they are very uncomfortable. None of us want to sit around sad and grief-stricken, but it is important that you allow the pain and go through it.
It is so important because without really dealing with your feelings it will be difficult to get over a breakup. The longer you repress these feelings, the longer your suffering will last.
Even if you deny your feelings, the feelings of sadness, suffering and grief are still in you. If you refuse to deal with your feelings, you will only torture yourself longer than necessary.
Therefore the first tip:
Allow all the negative feelings associated with the separation, do not repress it, go through and go through it. This gives you the opportunity to process your pain.
The second tip:
It will be the hardest for those who do not want to accept the separation and hope to meet their ex-partner one day.
But the relationship is over and the hope of getting back with the ex-partner just keeps you from moving forward in your own life. So the best thing you can do in this situation is to remove everything that reminds you of your ex-partner for a while and avoid any contact with him.
Maybe the separation was amicable and you want to stay friends. That would be great! And that makes it more likely that he or she will understand your need to distance yourself for a while.
Staying friends is admirable, but hurting too much right now when you see each other.
You can reconnect when you feel better and no longer feel the need to relate when you see your former partner.
If your ex-partner wants to stay friends with you, then he should understand your need to withdraw for a while to process your feelings and to reflect on yourself. Especially if he was the one who ended the relationship.
Although this last step is painful, it is still necessary to get over the separation.
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