How can you overcome shyness?
This article is about how people can overcome their shyness.
The advice is based on experiences from my close personal environment and I hope that it will inspire many people to act against their shyness.
As a child and as a teenager, Sven (name changed for reasons of discretion) was a person who was often described as very shy. Even if this term was correct, Sven had always longed to be as easy-going and sociable as everyone else. The problem was that he was struggling to make contacts and didn’t know how to get that confidence.
There were many reasons for his shyness. His family, for whatever reason, seemed to be constantly worried about something. She basically had a negative outlook on life and there was often an oppressive mood.
Sven also suffered from language difficulties, he stuttered, which, as can be easily imagined, made his situation even more difficult. He managed to overcome his speech disorder and was able to speak fluently afterwards, but that was only after he was eighteen.
Sven always preferred to be alone and many saw him as a loner. When he was alone, nobody could hurt him and he didn’t have to be ashamed of his stuttering. The strange thing, however, was that Sven was a very confident person inside, who was trying desperately to show the world the real Sven.
Because of his shyness, he found it difficult to relate to women, and he also struggled in his professional life, adapting to avoid being out of line as little as possible.
At around the age of 21, Sven decided to try to overcome his shyness once and for all. He wanted to understand the real reasons for his shyness and treat each cause one by one. He asked himself many questions and tried to answer them, such as:
Why am I afraid of people? The answer is because I’m afraid of not being accepted or disliked. Others could hurt me by being aggressive towards me, or by mocking me for my stuttering, etc. This is the reason for my paranoia. So I decide to do something about it. Because if I don’t try, I won’t know either.
Why am I afraid to make contacts? The answer is because I don’t feel like I have a lot to say and I think people think I’m boring. I decide to try my best from now on and want to see what happens.
Why do I have problems approaching and addressing women? Because I think they are not interested in me and they would only say to go away. Once again I tell myself if I don’t try, how am I supposed to know.
These are just three of many questions that he asked himself and you can clearly see that it creates an overall picture. He was just someone who was afraid to take risks, who was afraid of failure. He was also afraid of being rejected and disliked.
He has found that out of ten people he meets there are three to four who reject him, which means six out of ten people will like him. Life is too short to be constantly paranoid and tense. You have to fight your shyness and get rid of it once and for all.
Sven is now more confident than ever. There are still times when he feels shy and inhibited, but these become less and less over time.
Conclusion: If you are not feeling well and are suffering from your shyness, work on overcoming your shyness. I am sure that everyone, like Sven, will be able to improve their lives if they recognize the cause of their fears and work hard on it.
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