How to achieve your goals!
What we didn’t have as goals or dreams as children: We wanted to become a firefighter, earn a lot of money and live together with our partner in a dream house on the beach. But mostly it was just dreams.
Not only at the end of the year, from a psychological point of view, a highly exciting spectacle can be observed time and again when people are again doing the greatest things that they want to change. Uncle Dietmar wants to quit smoking, just like at the last 14 Christmas celebrations, finally lose 10 kg from your best friend next year and you have committed yourself to finally doing more for your body. Most of them stick to these statements.
If you are a member of a gym, you probably know that too: there is a lot more going on in January than it should be. It is the people who have taken the first step towards implementing their resolutions. But already 3-4 weeks later, the visitor numbers level off again on average; most of the new members have disappeared.advertising
Sad, but true: A study has shown that 60% of the exercisers in German fitness studios are passive members, i.e. have a contract and pay, but practically never come.
The reasons for this and in general for the fact that we often fail mercilessly on the first few meters towards the goal are diverse. Knowing them once and applying the solutions consciously is an important tool on the way to personal happiness.
1. Set realistic goals!
Sure, if we really want something, we are highly motivated and want to achieve it as quickly as possible. But this is exactly where the crux lies, where many failures. Goals are often set so high that they can hardly be achieved even with the smallest problem.
Start small! Set yourself clear goals that you can also realistically achieve.
If you finally want to do some sport in the future, you can plan to go to the gym or go running once a week, for example. If you want to lose weight, you can plan to start eating healthier in 1-2 days at the beginning, and if you want to read more, for example, you can start by reading one hour every week.
The advantage: These goals are realistically achievable and you prove to yourself that you can also implement your plans. If you have successfully completed it for a certain period of time (at least 2 months), increase the challenge by setting your goals a little higher (e.g. 2 days a week of sports, etc.)
Another reason why many people fail because of their goals is that they don’t really know them because they have never been clearly defined.
If you don’t know exactly where you want to go, you shouldn’t be surprised if you arrive somewhere else. (Mark Twain)
More specifically, if you plan to quit smoking, lose weight, or make enough money for a great car next month, that’s a laudable endeavor, but nothing more. You lack the measurable result that defines the achievement of the goal:
When do you want to quit smoking? How much do you want to lose weight? Which car do you want to be able to afford? Get in the habit of clearly formulating goals with numbers. You have to know exactly what you want to achieve by when, so not: “ I want to be fitter in a few months! “, But:” Today I want to be able to run at least 45 minutes in 6 months without a break “.
I also recommend using the SMART method .
3. Keep your goals in mind!
Targets are shy animals that often go unnoticed if you don’t pay enough attention to them. So make sure that they don’t get away from you and always stay in your field of vision.
And that is to be understood literally: imagine what your goal looks like and set it up as a background image on your computer.
Put a picture of your dream car for which you want to work for the next few months or make a colorful collage for yourself that visualizes your goals.
This way you will always be reminded of your goals and can better imagine what it will feel like when you have achieved them.
4. Divide your goal into several stages!
Your goal could be to complete your studies or write your own book. To see this as the sole goal, but can be quite unsatisfactory due to the length. The sense of achievement is missing.
Therefore, get into the habit of dividing your goals into units that you work through bit by bit and where you can enjoy the partial successes every few days or hours.
For example, as an author you can plan in chapters or you can divide up your apartment into tidying up, wiping dust, vacuuming and ultimately cleaning.
5. Avoid external stimuli!
Who does not know that: you have just made yourself comfortable at your desk, you have work or homework in front of you, but you keep thinking of things that absolutely have to be done now.
You haven’t looked at the post yet, you also wanted to take out the garbage. And exactly, you also wanted to make coffee.
Few of us are dominated by not being distracted by such stimuli. Believe me, I also often catch myself doing supposedly more important things than what I had actually planned.
Most of these things are of course no more important than the task we actually have to do, but they are a welcome excuse for why we cannot (yet) process them now.
So try to avoid such situations right from the start by doing them before the actual work and preparing everything for your environment so that nothing can distract you. Clean up your desk beforehand , make your coffee beforehand , switch off your cell phone or silently and make sure that your head is clear.
6. Last but not least: reward yourself!
Goals are only fun if you have some of them. So if your goal is not the two-week vacation in the Canary Islands, but rather only the relatively dry completion of your bachelor’s thesis, offer yourself a corresponding reward from the start.
It is important that you set the reward at the same time as you define your goal, so that you always have the time until then to look forward to and work towards.
We all have our goals and visions. Small and large, serious and more fun. But all too often we fail to implement it, sometimes even several times.
The reason for this is usually not that we cannot, but rather that we did not approach the goal planning itself in a meaningful way.
If you plan the implementation of your goals meticulously, set intermediate goals and provide motivation, there is hardly anything standing in the way of your success. If you then set your goals realistically, i.e. rather first low than too high, you can actually only win.
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