Think of a time where people are no longer ruled by their own limiting mindset and behaviors.
Where everyone took 100% responsibility for their actions, persevered in the face of hardship and challenge to make their dreams a reality, and refused to fall victim to the criticism and abuse of others.
What a world that would be!
Free from our egos and insecurities, we would support each other to reach our fullest potential and create lives that fill us with joy, purpose and abundance. We would work together to solve society’s most pressing problems and create a brighter future for all of us.
This kind of reality is well within your reach and it starts with you.
If you want the world to change for the better, the greatest contribution you can make right now is to become the change you wish to see – and, by your example, inspire others to achieve their highest potential as well.
Focus on yourself
If you want to change the world, you must begin with yourself. When it comes right down to it, you have control over only THREE things in life: the thoughts you think, the images you visualize, and the actions you take. If you focus on thinking positive thoughts, visualizing more successful outcomes, and taking positive action to achieve those outcomes, you are guaranteed to experience better results in your personal and professional life. Not only that, you will impress and inspire others who want to experience better results in their own lives.
Commit to continuous self-improvement
The joy of learning lies in the process, not the end result. When you dedicate yourself to a life of continuous self-improvement and growth, you remain curious and open and in a state of constant expansion.
Not only does this make your life more interesting and meaningful, it inspires others to follow in your footsteps. And the more people who choose to continuously improve rather than remain in a state of stagnation, the better it will be for the world.
View challenges as opportunities
The road to success has obstacles and challenges – that one’s a given. But it’s in the process of overcoming those obstacles that you become the kind of person who is capable of creating the kind of life you want to life.
When you cultivate perseverance and welcome challenges as opportunities to grow and expand your learning – as oppose to excuses to give up and stay exactly where you are, you will be able to achieve so much more in life. And you will motivate others to have the confidence and perseverance to overcome their own obstacles as well.
Be generous with your wisdom
Go after your dreams – and inspire others to do the sameEach of us has the power within to create the life we want, the life we dream about, the life we were born to live. Each of us deserves to fulfill our full potential and manifest our true destiny. It is our birthright.
But many people don’t understand this. They think that
they’re stuck where they are, subject to the whims of a cruel and indifferent
Universe, and that they lack the ability and/or the right to break free and
create a better life for themselves.
You can show them they’re wrong.
When you go after your dreams and start living life at your highest potential, you inspire others to do the same. And this will have a tremendous impact on the world around you.
As you become the person you were always meant to be, the people around you will notice your increased energy, positivity, and impact and inspired to model your actions and achieve more success in their own lives.
And as they shift, you’ll find that your world will become more of the place you dream it to be – full of support, love, understanding, and empowered individuals who cheer each other on to even greater heights.
The more you help others succeed, the more YOU succeed
The people with whom you share your wisdom won’t be the only ones to benefit when you take on the role of teacher.
Passing along your wisdom forces you to clarify your ideas, confront inconsistencies in your own thinking and more closely walk your talk. But most importantly, it requires you to read, study, and speak the teachings over and over again – and reinforce your own learning in the process.
And here’s another major benefit—the more you help other people succeed in life, the more they will want to help you succeed. If you’ve ever wondered why people who teach success strategies are so successful, here’s the answer: Because they have helped so many people get what they want, those they have helped naturally want to return the favor.
The same will be true for you.
Begin a daily meditation practice to cleanse your mind the way you cleanse your body.
Make a list of things you are grateful for. The more you appreciate the blessings in your life, the more blessings there will be to appreciate.
Pause for five seconds before you react to any person or situation. Pausing will give you an opportunity to choose a loving and empowering response instead of reacting on autopilot.
Reflect on your media consumption and decide to consume articles and programs that serve your highest good. Stop drugging yourself with triviality.
Spend time in nature regularly. Nature reminds us that there is a higher intelligence or wisdom at play in this world.
Share what you know with others. We can all learn from each other. Nobody knows everything.
Question your beliefs. Most of them were picked up in childhood and are not serving you. Begin to create your own set of empowering beliefs.
Accept things that fall outside your circle of control — like the weather, long line at the grocery store or opinion of others. Save your energy for more important things.
Mold your values and let them guide your life. Values are deep underlying motivators like connection, creativity, freedom, learning, adventure and joy.
Create a mental picture of the greatest version of you. Imagine in detail how this person would think, feel and act. Begin to act like this person until it becomes second nature.
Take good care of your body with water, nourishing foods, movement and rest — it is the only home you have for your soul on this earth.
Be solutions-focused instead of problems-focused. There is always a solution for the highest good.
Set a daily intention each morning which will guide your day. It could be gratitude, playfulness, giving, courage or forgiveness.
Declutter your environment. Set yourself free of anything that is not serving you.
Give up attachment to outcomes. Redefine success as giving your best. Remember that full effort is full victory.
Be the presence of the alternative in this world — be the presence of love, compassion, peace, forgiveness and possibility.
Do one thing each day outside your comfort zone. Fear is a natural part of growth and expansion so train yourself to feel the fear and act anyway.
Set goals and review them regularly. This is one of the top habits of highly successful people.
To reiiterate! The fact is none of us are going to wake up tomorrow and drastically transform our life in 24 hours.
“Small changes eventually add up to huge results”
This reality is okay though. We can start small and then build our way up. That’s how I’ve transformed my own life and you can do the same.
Start with a clean slate.
Everything you tried up until now is in the past.
Throw away any failures you may have had and start the first day fresh.
Visualise how you want to feel at the end of the 14-days. I don’t want you to do anything else on day one.
Write two big goals you want to achieve in the next month (no more!). Write down why they are crucial to your life and how you’ll feel at the end.
Connecting with positive feelings gives you a jolt of motivation. As humans, we’re driven by how things make us feel.
With your two goals floating around in your head, let them simmer for a bit. In the meantime, we need to create space in your life.
This starts with one huge clean-up. Throw out everything that doesn’t bring you joy or makes you feel bad (feelings again are front and center).
Continuing the theme of minimalism and making space, today is all about cleaning your work area.
We all have one space that we use to sit down and do work. That work might be reading, browsing the internet, writing, doing business stuff and preparing presentations.
“Taking objects away from your work area will give your mind a feeling of freeness that is hard to describe”
I also want you to take objects away from your digital workspace as well. I recently deleted more than 500 GB of junk that I never access on my computer.
The biggest space to clean is the desktop of your computer. Put things in folders and get them off the desktop!
Today is all about analyzing your calendar. Where is all your time spent? After this exercise, I decided to wipe my calendar and only have the following: gym, writing, time with my girlfriend, public speaking and that’s all.
Everything else was deleted.
There are many tasks we sign up to that stop us from going deep on our priorities.
“Until you look at your calendar with a fine-tooth comb, you’ll be blindsided by the time you waste”
Your mind needs space if you are really going to be able to get the benefits from this Month long transformation.
Holidays are a time to reflect and avoid distractions.
doesn’t mean you should take drugs, party hard and be reckless. The attitude I
want you to adopt is the following:– No longer getting
upset by people’s opinions.
– Quitting the comparison game and living your own life.
– Be you both at work and at home. Remove the mask.
– Do stuff because you want to not because you have to.
– Stop overthinking and follow your gut.
The first item for health week is to see your doctor or naturopath and have some blood tests. You can’t do much unless you know where your health is at today.
The tests you need to take will vary based on the individual. I’d recommend at least a heavy metals test, a cortisol test and a hormone test to get you started.
When the results come back, you’ll have a good guide of what you need to change. Health equals energy to do your two big goals.
Sugar is messing with your health. You know it, your dog knows it and so does your neighbor.
Let’s not try and go zero sugar from the start or you’ll relapse. In this Monthly transformation, I want you to delete only one sugar habit.
This will give you the willpower and discipline to delete more sugar habits by yourself later on.
Sugar habits include the following: coffee with sugar, soft drink, bread, cow’s milk dairy, lollies, milk chocolate, etc.
All of these items spike your blood sugar which gives you cravings and helps to make you a crack addict for sugar.
Now we need exercise to help boost your mood and make you healthy. You’ll be requiring 30-minute sessions, with three doses a week .
Again, this is not brand-new news. Exercise is crucial to any transformation process because it puts you into momentum. Physically moving also helps your mind move forward and create momentum as well.
“I recommend locking in an exercise session right before you want to do one of your big goals”
Lock in twenty minutes of reading per day. It’s how you’ll gain the knowledge to crush your two big goals and it will feed your mind.
Reading gives you ideas and reorganizes existing information that is stored in your brain.
Self-development books and biographies of people who have achieved their own big goals are where I’d start. These books can be read on your phone or in physical paper form (old school).Part two of day eleven is to add one podcast to your phone to listen too on the way to work.
The commute is a good time to pick up further ideas and learn new skills. The only requirement here is to pick podcasts that you actually enjoy otherwise you’ll ditch your habit faster than a broken-down car.
The two podcasts I recommended starting with are Tim Ferriss’s and The Tony Robbins Podcast.
Distractions are a dangerous hazard.
I recently deleted Twitter, Instagram and about three dining apps. The first two were distracting me and they no longer serve my two big goals. I also had dozens of dining apps and realized I only use one. The rest were deleted and I’ve never looked back.
At the same time, I also recommend turning off all notifications except text messages. You don’t need them and they distract you.
Try it and watch your stress levels reduce when using your devices.
We’re going to add one uncomfortable activity per week from now on to your to-do list or calendar.
The uncomfortable activities I have to pick from in my life are public speaking, flying and business networking,
Yours could be eating vegetables, starting a side business or if you’re single, it could be going on dates. Whatever the uncomfortable activity is, doing it weekly is the final step to massive transformation.
Eventually, what is uncomfortable will become much easier. You’ll get better at crushing your fears and this will compound the results in your life further.
It’s almost so simple that your mind could decide to opt out and utilize a mindset of “I’m superior and these dumb tasks are for amateurs — not me.”
The best advice is often the simplest and it’s the little things you don’t do that stop you from having the life transformation you’ve always wanted — and probably needed.
Where you are in your life is a result of your habits. Will Durant (not Aristotle) said it best:
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”
I think that’s also true for the opposite of excellence. Mediocrity is a result of mediocre habits.
That means we can go from mediocrity to excellence by changing our habits.
But how do you do that? Before we get into that, I want to clarify my statement: Habits change your life, but they do not guarantee success.
Because that’s what “the habits of millionaires” type of articles and books tell us. We get it, Elon Musk sleeps 2 hours a day and eats Cheerios for dinner—or something like that.
But what the writers of those type of moronic articles hide from you, the reader, is that correlation doesn’t mean causation.
Waking up early, working hard, and taking cold showers do not cause success. No one illustrates that point better than Nassim Taleb, who wrote this in Fooled By Randomness:
“Hard work, showing up on time, wearing a clean (preferably white) shirt, using deodorant, and some such conventional things contribute to success—they are certainly necessary but may be insufficient as they do not cause success.”
So when I talk about habits, I don’t talk about outcomes. I talk about changing our actual behavior so that it improves the quality of our lives.
Look, I can talk to you about the habits that have changed my life habits all day long, but that’s not helpful. The reason is that only YOU can decide what a good habit is.
Deciding if a habit is worth it to you is critical to forming new habits. Too often we hear about something, and we think: “I should do that!”
Really? Should I wake up an hour earlier? Should I take cold showers? Should I eat like a cave person? Should I run every day?
Maybe waking up early is actually helpful to you. I don’t know. When I wake up early, I behave like a grumpy old man who hates people—that deteriorates the quality of my life.
Hence, I don’t wake up very early (7 AM or earlier) no matter how many people tell me it will make me successful.
Just ask yourself this:
“Will habit x improve the quality of my life?”
The reason you want to ask yourself that question is that we all need a reasonto change. We need something that’s bigger than superficial reasons.
“I want to read one book a week,” you might say. Why? So you can do what? What’s your vision? What are your goals?
For example, I read two books a week because I’m a teacher/trainer. I need to learn every single day so I can do my job better. I do strength training because I want to be a useful person. I do many chores around my house and the office. I want to make and fix things. I need to be in good shape to lift heavy things or do strenuous tasks.
That’s my why. What’s yours? Answer that. And then, adopt habits that bring you closer to the things you want in life.
Focus on one habit at a time
I don’t know why, but sometimes I get on this whole self-improvement spree. I feel like reading more, writing more, working more, living better, eating healthier, you name it.
It’s best to hold back the enthusiasm if you’re the same. In general, when you do too many things at the same time, you end up with chaos.
And you always end up right back where you started. Sounds familiar?
One of the reasons we try to do so many things at the same time is that we overestimate ourselves. We think we can achieve a lot in a short period. That’s false.
We can achieve A LOT over a long period. That’s true.
So focus on one thing at a time. Stack one habit on top of the other, one by one (just like in this post’s image, at the top).
Set the bar very low
We often want to do big things, without understanding it. Starting a business or building a career requires effort. In fact, everything in life that’s remotely valuable requires a lot of work to achieve.
So before we do something big, let’s start small. Similarly, before you change the world, change yourself first.
“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.”
Focus on small things. Build a strong foundation. Without it, we can never achieve anything meaningful.
- Want to run daily? Start by walking.
- Want to write a book? Write once sentence.
- Want to start a business? Get one client.
- Want to read two books a week? Read one page a day.
- Want to save for your retirement? Don’t buy another shirt you’re only going to wear once.
Big things follow by themselves.
We must use checklists to remind ourselves of what we’re trying to achieve. Remember: We form habits to transform our lives—to make things BETTER.
Check off your habits daily. One day, you’ll be surprised by how much your life changed by such, seemingly, small habits. At least, that’s what happened to me and the thousands of other people who focus on their habits. And I’m sure it will happen to you too.
The person I am today is so different from who I was years ago. I look
back sometimes and I can’t believe all the petty fears, insecurities
and worries I had.
A lot of that came from my upbringing and my
environment. I have two kids of my own now and I am so grateful I did
not pass on the abusive treatment I witnessed growing up.
I am able to raise them in a safe neighborhood and spend a lot of time with them.
To date, that is my greatest accomplishment. Overcoming all that
happened to me but yet still give my kids a great life.
With that said, I have learned something everyone needs to do. Have an
This means being true to yourself. Not living to impress others and live up to others’ expectations. I picture the son that wants to dance instead of being a lawyer like his parents want.
Or the daughter that wants to travel the world and skip college for a
year or pass on the family business. It’s so important to be who you
were meant to be. This means going with the flow of life.
There are so many pressures in life and in our society, especially in
the west. Social media has compounded this leading many to suffer from
getting cyberbullied to not getting enough ‘likes’ and the list goes
on. This has impacted our self worth to no end.
Everyone now wants to be liked, rich and famous. Now there is nothing wrong with being rich, but if this is your only goal in life then you will be in for a rude awakening. While money is important, it is not everything.
Further, there are stories every day about millionaires and billionaires who commit suicide or get strung out on drugs. There is no price you can put on Self Mastery.
You are in charge of your emotions but most let them run amok.
Part of Self Mastery is understanding
who you are and why you are
here. Do you know that gut feeling you get when its decision time?
That’s your internal guide, not your gut. That’s your spirit or your
higher self. Listen to it. Act on it. Too many times we stifle this
voice. Only to our detriment. Learn to trust your inner self or as
some may say your higher self. This may mean you are not the center
of attention but you are putting your attention at the center of your
being. This is so much more important. I learned there is nothing
wrong with life in obscurity. Nothing at all. As a matter of fact, if
you are ok with being alone, that just says you accept yourself and
you don’t need external validation.
Not Giving A Damn
The essential key to living is to not give a damn about what others think.
Yes, this takes work. But that’s why we are here, to do the work. As the author, Miguel Ruiz says, don’t take anything personally. What I am saying here falls along those lines.
In my years I realized that no matter how good you are or try to be you will always have doubters and naysayers. People will disrespect you. This
is a part of life.
The code I live by in this regard is wherever I go, 20% of the people I meet will not like me, 20% will like me, and the remaining 60% can go either way.
For you to live with an Interiority Complex, you will have to be
selfish. Yes, you will have to put yourself first. When you put
yourself first everything else will fall into place.
It’s like they say, you have to love yourself first before you love anyone else. Some people have a problem with this. But let me tell you to try it. Go
ahead and put yourself first. Make you #1 in your life. Invest in