Successful or happier people are not necessarily smarter or more diligent. Instead, at some point in their life, they have started to question themselves and react in time when they are on the wrong track.
There are two types of human characters, you probably know both. Some wander more or less disoriented through everyday life, similar to a mouse in an experimental setup. In the event of problems or unforeseen changes in life, they wait or try with all their might to overcome the obstacle in some way.
The other type of person, on the other hand, asks himself every few meters whether he is still on course or an alternative path might be better for him. If he realizes that he has made the wrong decision, he will go back and try a new one.
But what makes more sense and, above all, what about you?
Few people are able to handle criticism of their person properly. Instead, they feel attacked, speak out, or react offended.
“Show a clever person a mistake and he will thank you. Show a stupid person a mistake and he will insult you. “
If you also look at how many people are critical of themselves , they come to similar conclusions.
In my opinion, the ability to recognize your own mistakes or even to want to see them is one of the most important virtues to learn in life.
The one who always thinks that the others are wrong and that he already knows how to do what will always remain the one he already is.
If you are satisfied with all the nuances of your life – be it work, family or happiness – then you can do so. However, if you see potential for improvement in one or another area of life, then you should not only gratefully accept criticism from others and question it for yourself, but also occasionally ask yourself the question of whether you are doing this or that correctly:
- “Am I actually nice to my partner? How would I feel in his place? “
- “Did I really have too little time today or did I really waste it on trivial matters?”
- “Did I really give everything for my goals or could it have been more?”
You will notice that if you look at your behavior objectively (i.e. from the perspective of a third person), you see many things at once completely differently and often find that you have screwed up where you were initially not so aware.
Therefore, get into the habit of critically questioning your own behavior in everyday life. This is the only way you can sharpen your senses and develop yourself further.
Recognize turning points in life
Let’s be honest: none of us like to admit mistakes. And even less we would like to admit (or to others) that we were on the wrong track.
But it is exactly this behavior that gets us into trouble. It ensures that we often wander through life disoriented in the hope that we will still somehow reach our goal. True to the motto: “Time comes, advice comes.”
For example, we have been unsuccessful at the university for 14 semesters, have believed for years that the relationship with our partner will be good again, or have struggled since our apprenticeship in a job that pulls our mouths down every morning.
One of the skills of self-criticism is the virtue of taking a critical look at one’s own path in life and, if necessary, recognizing a dead end. No matter whether we like it or not.
It is not reprehensible if you admit to yourself after 14 unsuccessful semesters (according to the old study system) that it was a stupid idea to study and then deal with new things. Neither is it bad to draw a line in a cooled relationship at some point when all the attempts to rescue have failed.
But what is bad is to just keep going in circles and hope that eventually everything will work itself out again. Be careful: This will not normally happen, and certainly not if it has not happened before.
If you notice something in life that is no longer going on or if friends point it out, take the time to think about it in peace and for yourself. Quite objectively and maybe also based on a pro and contra list. Once you’ve done that, make a decision and do it right away. But don’t sit it out any further.
Regardless of whether it is caused by yourself or by the course of things: turning points are part of life and sharpen our character. Admitting mistakes or wrong ways more often is evidence of size and maturity. It is such experiences that take you further. Such experiences are worth more than any certificate or degree.
So don’t walk haphazardly through the labyrinth of your life, but become a falcon and take a look at your location from above.
Nobody would like to admit mistakes or errors. For this reason, we often wander about our path of life disoriented and hope to somehow still find our goal.
It makes more sense to ask yourself regularly and to allow external criticism as to whether you behaved correctly and are still on track.
To look at your own life objectively and to admit mistakes are important virtues that you should master. See your life from above and take consequences instead of running around in circles hoping for improvement. You will see that you will be much better off shedding old ballast and making decisions than sticking to wrong ways from the past.
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