I’m going to tell you a harsh truth. One your ego has been protecting you from your whole life…
It’s your fault. Your problems are of your own making.
The reason you’re fat, depressed, lazy. The reason you can’t seem to find the motivation to do anything productive is because of your lack of introspection; or in other words, you lack the ability to look within, you lack the ability to point the finger at yourself, instead you wag it at every one else.
Anytime I see someone for the first time since I lost the weight, 9 times out 10 I get the same reaction, followed by the same question, “You look great! What’s your secret?” My response to that question is always, “diet and exercise.” Because that is the only way. There is no secret formula, no easy way, and it doesn’t happen overnight.
But, in the interest of not stepping on people’s toes or hurting feelings, there is something people in my position are keeping from you when you ask that question. I’m sick of lying and with every passing day I grow more and more indifferent to your feelings. Lying does nothing but damage me and hold you back.
So, here’s a bit of tough love, you’re sick. Your mind is sick – like mine was – and it reflects in your actions and the way you look. Your body mirrors your mind. You think appearances don’t matter? If it’s something you can’t help, people will look past it when judging your character, but when you’re fat and out of shape, it shows me and everyone else one of two things about you if not both; you’re either lazy and/or you lack self-control. I will be the first to admit I had both of these problems in abundance and I am in the position I’m in now because I was willing to admit that, among many other things, to myself.
If you are one of the people I’m truly writing this for, you had one of 3 reactions, each showing varying degrees of acceptance. First – you agreed with everything I just said, showing you’ve suppressed your ego sufficiently enough to start making changes in your life. Second – that hurt to hear, and you feel bad for it; that says you’re, at the least, not in denial and you have the keys to begin suppressing your ego. Flex that muscle before jogging a single step or lifting a single pound because the first steps of self-improvement start in the mind. Third is total ego control and because of that, people who fall under that category have either clicked off this blog or they’re still here, seething at the fact that I would have the audacity to say something so ridiculous and to read what other offensive things I might say that they can use against me.
Your ego will fight tooth and nail to keep you blissfully ignorant of harsh truths.