Jealousy in the relationship
What is jealousy?
Jealousy can be described as a fear of losing control and power. In fact, people have always sought power. But after all, you have to pay for everything you get in life. In the same way, fear of losing power is the price one has to pay for superiority. For this reason, most people who seek to exercise power and influence on others in some way are well aware of the feeling of jealousy.
Excessive jealousy in the relationship is not a sign of love
Relationship jealousy can be compared to cowardice: it is not a sublime feeling of proof of love, but rather a constant distrust and fear of losing influence and power over the object of love.
Some people try to protect themselves from jealousy by choosing an intimidated, humble and expendable person from the start as a suitable partner. He or she prefers a partner who has the above characteristics just to be sure, thereby preventing fear of loss. However, even this precaution does not prevent the feeling of jealousy because this feeling is an unconscious engagement with your own weakness. The more people perceive their inferiority, the more pronounced is the potential jealousy.
Psychologists have found that often men who torment their women with jealousy are themselves not loyal. However, their own infidelity is irrelevant to them, and they view love affairs with other women as a possible parallel relationship to their steady relationship.
Jealousy in the relationship often causes conflict
Men or women who are jealous often cause arguments and try to limit all possible contacts of the partner to other people. In such an environment, all family members suffer, so it is in the mutual interest to work to create a climate of benevolence in the family and to eliminate jealousy. Jealousy is particularly prevalent in families where there is no open and honest communication with one another, and where there are no other clear questions. Very often it is the result of recommendations such as “Perfect openness is only harmful to the family. Better not say anything to your husband (wife). “
Excessive jealousy is abnormal. For someone who suffers from this disease, a suspicious look is enough to accuse the partner of infidelity. He (she) will look for signs of infidelity everywhere: a lack of willingness for intimacy, a glance at an unknown man (woman), a constant desire for intimacy (to conceal infidelity).
This type of jealousy can lead to crazy frenzy that is not based on any real basis. A jealous partner puts different situations together, spins them and lives through them. In the medical sense, one speaks of a “third person syndrome”. There is no point in influencing such a person with common sense. In such a case, it is advisable to seek psychological help.
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