Couple survey: relationships become happier, but shorter
Married or not, with or without children: Couples feel comfortable in their partnership – according to an online survey. There is a reason for that.
Despite or perhaps because of the high divorce rate, the Germans feel comfortable in their relationship. According to a survey by Elite Partner, 90 percent of those surveyed are happy, and one in two are very happy with their partner. This applies to both men and women. Factors such as age, marriage or children also have no influence on how satisfied couples live. When asked why so many are happy, psychologist Lisa Fischbach has an answer.
Finding a partner is goal-oriented
Lots of couples are happy because finding a partner is much more targeted these days. The demands on a partner are very high. That means you live happily with him or her, or you separate, according to the psychologist. However, this means that relationships are getting shorter and shorter. Although most believe in eternal love, much more have the courage to draw an end early. Before you become unhappy, you tend to end the partnership. Fischbach also knows that the intensity of happiness can diminish over the course of the relationship. This could also be found in the survey.
The respondents felt the greatest happiness in the phase of falling in love in the first year. 68 percent of newly in love say they live in a happy partnership. After about five years, only half are comfortable. After ten years it is almost 50 percent who are satisfied with their partner. After 20 years, the happy couples will be even fewer, here it is still 44 percent. But why?
Expectations are no longer met
In the course of the relationship, the wishes and ideas of those involved remain the same or intensify. Only the fulfillment of these wishes on the part of the partner decreases. So women long for more care and closeness, especially after many years. According to the survey, one in three wishes that the partner should pay more compliments and speak more openly about feelings. The majority want more tenderness and sex in the partnership. For both genders, security is of great importance with increasing age. That’s why you find eight out of ten middle-aged people in firm hands.
Relationship habits have changed dramatically: relationships are entered into more often, but are generally of shorter duration. There are more separations, and if a marriage is entered into, it is usually later than in previous years. There is an increasing change between times of partnerships and phases of single life. You don’t need anyone else to be satisfied. But almost everyone is happy when they can share their lives with someone.
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