Self-awareness, external perception and self-confidence
I am who I am
Every person is a personality of their own and unique. It has good and less good qualities. The diversity of nature is already born to a newborn. Its development is determined by many factors such as:
- Social background
- social environment
- living conditions
The thinking person is subject to changes. Whether they are shaped positively or negatively also largely depends on himself and his inner attitude. It is important to recognize who and how you are : through self-awareness .
A hot-tempered person does not make a change to the good with his statement: “I cannot do anything else, I am how I am”. It signals indifference, comfort and a lack of willingness to change its nature sustainably on its own and with good will. Individuals with their strengths and weaknesses, with their rational and emotional abilities are perceived by others and often differently than they see themselves.
What is self-awareness?
It is the ability to look at yourself objectively. It serves as the basis for necessary changes in your own personality. Real self-assessment contributes to your own self-confidence. In some cases, however, this does not preclude an overestimation of yourself. Healthy self-awareness is the basis for self-confidence. Then foreign provisions that want to negate your own thinking pattern have little chance. Typical examples are media suggestions for ideals of beauty as well as undermining the authority of colleagues or families.
The discrepancy between self-image and the image of others becomes a danger to people if, for example, anorexic addicts not only find themselves “beautifully slim” but do not allow weight gain, even though bulimia has already reached a high health risk.
A proverb says: “Self-knowledge is the first step towards improvement.”
Personality development is necessary for social competence.
In human society, personality development is of great importance. In the age of “high speed management”, rapid technological developments and the associated social and economic trends, the half-life of knowledge is shortened. The person with his “personality” remains the “constant” that is predictable.
Everyone knows that there cannot be an “egg-laying wool milk sow”. However, a successful personality is characterized by the fact that it largely harmonises its potential (the inside) with its own behavior (the outside). It manages to be itself and not to be “bent” by others. She develops her own style of behavior. This includes courage. To say no if it also means “no”. Not knowingly or subconsciously to slip into roles that do not suit you. It could even look ridiculous. Recognizing one’s own strengths, weaknesses and limits are components of self-reflection and healthy self-awareness .
It is desirable that critical situations are dealt with confidently in private and professional life. Not everyone is able to resolve conflicts peacefully, and especially in politics it takes a lot of tact and empathy.
The goal for all levels must be: to recognize the situation and combine it with the strengths of the existing potential.
Seeing the bigger picture and thinking honestly and fairly about yourself and others are prerequisites for improved social skills.
- Confident handling of conflict situations
- Solving critical situations
- Team and communication skills
- Role model as a manager
- Positive influence on others
- sense of responsibility
- Increased self-confidence
A person who consciously perceives himself asks the questions:
What are my strengths? How can they be used to be effective in certain situations? Where are bottlenecks and when is there “catching up”? A helpful strategy is: focus on your strengths.
The one who will test his skills and talents before setting his goal will be successful. Forcing a musically unskilled child to learn an instrument would be fatal and, as a layperson, wanting to climb an eight-thousand-meter peak would be suicide.
Each person’s self-image results from self-perceptions and external perceptions.
What is outside perception?
This is how others see us. They perceive you in body language, appearance, language and the whole behavior. The first few seconds in the consideration of a “counterpart” decide about sympathy or antipathy.
Another person’s judgment should be handled with care, because a person does not have to be what he is. The danger of “pigeonholing” is given by many and prejudices already take away the opportunity for others to open themselves and their identity with their being. Current examples are people with a migration background.
The “external image” is influenced by certain expectations. Example: good has been done to another person and gratitude is not long in coming. How quickly does the other “sink” in value? A good piece of advice is to never set expectations too high, otherwise disappointment is already inevitable. Don’t expect anything and you won’t be disappointed!
It is human that one’s own charisma works in “good light” on others. What is the response? Which feedback and by whom are accepted? How do you deal with justified criticism of yourself?
External determination – creativity – self-confidence
Everyone has behavioral tendencies that are reflected in the following behavioral styles: DISG
- Dominant – the reaction is determined by the environment with the aim of being in control and winning – the perception is uncomfortable and exhausting
- Initiative – also reaction to the environment, but in a pleasant way, such as motivating, convincing and exerting influence
- Steady – the reaction to the environment is rather reserved and pleasant. The goal is harmony, stability and support from others
- Conscientious – reserved reaction to the environment. The perception is exhausting because everything is to be done “correctly” and anger is to be avoided. Precision and perfectionism require strength.
This structure is present in every personality, but with different intensities. Creative people have a high level of self-confidence. Those who enjoy work and difficult tasks will be more successful than unmotivated people. Creativity can be increased through conscious awareness of the environment and people.
Walking through life with open eyes and learning from what has been experienced and perceived helps, for example, to better assess customers.
With sufficient self-confidence, on the one hand, creative resources that everyone has can be promoted and, on the other hand, the external determination (at work, stress, private atmosphere) can be reduced to a healthy level.
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