Stop being imprisoned by social conditioning.
Fear of judgement has many facets for example shame, shyness, perfectionism. Whatever form it comes in, it’s limiting you, it constrains and constricts you.
Those who fear social judgment miss out on so much. By caring about what strangers think, they’re allowing people who they don’t even know and probably never see again to control their behavior.
Fear of social judgment also makes you think small. Accomplishing anything big is going to annoy those people some even get mad and angry at you! They’ll try to deter you. If you really want to have an impact in your life then you can’t let these people get in your way.
You can only express yourself and connect with people genuinely and openly when you don’t care what others think about you. Simply put “STOP trying to please others!” The less time and energy you waste on building an image and on making your life fitting to others expectations, the more time you can spend on things that really matter.
Now let’s answer the question once and for all!
How can you stop worrying about what people think of you?
Know your values
You have to know what’s important in your life, what is it that you truly value, and what are your goals in life. Once you figured that out, what other people think of you will get significantly less important to you. When you get your values straight, you’ll have something to stand for. You’ll learn to stand your ground and stop saying yes to everything.
Put yourself out there
Now that you know what your values are, it’s time to put yourself out there.
This can be done in several ways. Here are a few suggestions:
- Start a YouTube Channel and make Videos
- Flirting/Asking someone out
Remember that when you’re doing any of these things, that you have to speak your mind. Don’t bullshit around be honest with yourself and stand behind the things you say, because the world doesn’t need another phony “talk the talk … walk the walk!”
Stop being a people pleaser
You are not a people pleaser! You are a man, it’s totally fine to disagree with people, if they get mad at you for disagreeing with them, fuck them, if you enjoy it troll them if not just leave them alone. They have a weak mind and they can’t deal with someone who doesn’t share or accept their beliefs/behavior! If someone gets offended or triggered by what you have to say then that’s their problem not yours!
Learn to ignore those people and go about your Day. Don’t waste your time with those people it’s definitely not worth it.
This is your life to live. At the end of the day you are the only person who needs to approve of your own choices.
Nobody knows What’s Best For You
The only one who knows what’s best for you is YOU. Don’t let your social circles interfere with what you think or do. Don’t listen to your parents if they say get a real Job but you want to start a business, don’t say yes to your friends when they want to go out and drink alcohol but you still have work to do, don’t listen to the media and the BS they saying.
Instead listen to yourself, listen to your gut and trust your instinct, you will be better of that way guaranteed! It’s the only way you’ll ever learn and become a better version of yourself! Make your own decisions and take full responsibility for them, if you fail, then at least you can learn from it, as opposed to blaming it on somebody else.
Be your own Hero
The only person who is guaranteed to be by your side no matter what is YOU. Be your own superhero. You’re here for a reason! Be your own force of Nature and stop letting the world control you! Start to see life as something to enjoy rather than something to endure!
Develop the courage to allow people to see the real you. Accept it to be judged, and even encourage it. It’s perfect for developing thick skin.
If this is too extreme for you, start by taking small steps. It’s going to be hard at first because people will judge what you are doing and it’s a challenge to show your face and your work to the world. But it’s a huge step to start caring less about what other people think about you.
Authenticity is a skill that can be learned and developing that skill requires taking action. By making authenticity your top priority, you’ll grant yourself the time and energy required to learn how to stand up for your own beliefs. You might say that you don’t care what other people think, but truly living authentically is another matter. You can hide the your true self from other people, but you can’t hide it from yourself.
Surround yourself with pros
You need those people because their attitude and their behaviour will transfer over on to you. Surround yourself with people who are honest and direct, that way you will become honest and direct!
- Don’t be affected by social pressure, stay unaffected by criticism, immune to embarrassment. Start to take things less personally.
- Trust yourself, listen to your gut instinct and don’t look to others for guidance.
- Don’t try to please and impress people.
- Be Authentic
- Build a strong Social Circle around you
- You are great so take action and DO something build your empire and leave a legacy!
As always I hope this proves to be useful to you and thanks for reading.
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