Strengthen your own willpower
There are people who seem to achieve their goals with ease. Others despair of their inner bastard and often give up before they really get started. We get to the bottom of the secret of willpower.
Surely you know someone who already had his goals early in school and then achieved them without any ifs and buts, while you yourself might not even have been able to give up smoking for even a week.
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What is willpower?
While ” motivation ” rather describes the driving force to strive for certain goals or things, the willpower (the so-called volition ) means the knowing implementation of precisely these goals through one’s own actions. For example, your motivation could be a great car or a nice house in the country, while only your willpower lets you do the things that are necessary to achieve it. So here in the example earn money.
This willpower has natural barriers to action, which we all know only too well. We often refer to them as the “inner bastard”, which then prevents us from doing what we actually intend to do. Most of the time it is a matter of convenience, for example if we would rather stay in bed for a little longer or simply postpone it to tomorrow with sport.
Such a lack of willpower is neither innate nor is it permanently established in our genes. Rather, it is the result of our habits, which have burned into our memory at some point.
So it is usually simply the things that deviate from our usual activities, where we need a correspondingly strong willpower to do them differently than before. Man is just a creature of habit.
Strengthen your own willpower
To train your own willpower, you should try the following approaches:
1.) Think positive
The basis for healthy willpower is – as with all topics related to motivation, happiness and satisfaction – first of all a positive attitude.
If you think that you won’t reach your goal X or Y anyway or you don’t believe in it, then don’t do it because you will fail with timpani and trumpets.
“Whether you think you can do something or you can’t do something: you will always be right.” (Henry Ford)
Always assume that you are achieving your goals. This is the only way you will work on it subconsciously. (see also: beliefs )
2.) Overwrite habits
As described in another article (see: Habits ), it is important that you understand that your body takes a few days to get used to changes.
If you have stayed through this relatively short period of 3-4 weeks, your brain is reprogrammed so that it has become normal for you and your willpower will get in the way when you want to do it again as before.
3.) Set achievable goals
Many people fail because of the fact that their goal is too far away for the current time. You want to quit smoking at the turn of the year or sleep 2 hours less at night in the future.
It should quickly become clear to you that it will rarely work, for example, to stop smoking from one day to the next instead of 15 cigarettes a day.
That is why it is important to divide the goal into stages, for example getting a cigarette less or 5 minutes earlier each week (see also: Achieving goals ). So you can reach stage by stage and you will have success experiences that will pull you up. Believe me, every successful person does exactly that.
4.) Visualize motifs
To have goals, more precisely a motivation – such as the car or the house – are good and nice, but initially only thoughts.
Make sure you keep the goal in mind. Set up a picture of your dream house as a desktop or smartphone background so that you are always reminded of it. If you are dissatisfied with your figure, put a photo of yourself that you find terrible about the figure on the fridge or your gym bag.
You will see that the real miracle can work!
5.) Create balance
It is also important that you are not too perfectionist, for example that you do not allow yourself any slips.
Since we are (luckily) only human and do not always work perfectly like a machine, these slips will come sooner or later, which is quite normal. The only question then is how you deal with them.
It is best if you plan such slip-ups right away, for example by indulging in sport-free days or an unhealthy meal. This does not stand in the way of your goals and you have the reassuring thought that you can do it again at the weekend.
Should you lack the necessary willpower for a day outside of these “planned slips”, make sure that you are fully involved again the next day. Because, as written in the topic about habits, you get used to it again and it becomes more difficult to pick yourself up every day. (You know this, for example, if you don’t like sports for one day and then have an excuse the next, etc. etc.)
While motivation describes what we are striving for (i.e. our goals), volition is about our actions in order to achieve exactly these goals.
The strength of this willpower is not innate or genetically determined, but results primarily from our habits. Things that stand in the way of these habits require a higher willpower to implement them accordingly.
In order to train our willpower, it is important that we set achievable goals, admit ourselves to slips on the way there and approach them with a positive attitude. It is also helpful to visualize your own goals and deliberately overwrite old habits.
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