We should learn from failed relationships
When a relationship breaks down, it is usually a difficult time for the people concerned.
We all know people who have lived through this before. This phase can last for weeks or months, in some cases even for years. During this time, these people are not as we normally know them.
Some are so hurt by the separation that they fall from one extreme to the other. You start to plunge into several superficial relationships or just have short, non-binding sexual affairs (one-night stands).
They come to the conclusion that there is no point in establishing a long-term relationship and try not to build one at all.
Such people, moving from one person to another, may have lost faith in the separation of ever finding a partner with whom they can be happy.
However, there is the other extreme.
These people take a long time to overcome a separation. You no longer want to know about a partnership and are left alone for months or even years.
Some people, especially middle-aged people, find it difficult to form a new relationship. The separation has traumatized them so much that they are unable to have a loose relationship for fear of renewed pain.
Both extremes are sad and unnecessary. If you notice that you are tending in one of these directions, you should stop and look closely at yourself and your situation. There are far more constructive ways to deal with a separation. You have the chance to develop yourself and learn more about yourself.
Whether a relationship is successful or not does not depend on just one person. Both are responsible. After failure, the blame is never entirely on one side. As far as one can speak of guilt, because there are a lot of other factors that play a big role in finding a couple. It is also possible that the basic fit between two people is incorrect.
Knowing this, you should go inside yourself and think and analyze what could have contributed to the end of the relationship. Doing so is a painful affair, but it is necessary so as not to make the same mistakes in later relationships. What would you do differently if you could start all over again?
This is not to say that you should regret going back to your ex-partner to do it differently. No, that’s not what it means. Rather, it can help you get to the heart of the matter to know the truth.
If you discover something that has contributed to the end of the relationship, do not make it appear worse than it was.
We tend to overdo memories, so a little thing that you believe to have been to blame sticks in your head and won’t let you rest. Don’t let this happen, it’s not your fault alone.
Now that you know what you could have done differently, think about what your ex-partner might have done wrong without dramatizing his mistakes.
Thanks to this failed relationship, you have learned what you can do better next time, so you have a better chance of a happy relationship in the future.
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