What does self-improvement mean?
Self-improvement, self-development and self-development are now widespread and established concepts. In recent years, many books have come on the market, which deal with the topics of self-improvement, self-development and self-development more or less intense.
But what does “self-improvement” mean anyway? What do we actually improve if we improve ourselves? And which “self” do we improve?
We each have two kinds of “self” in us – our injured self and our inner self or core self. Our inner self is our true self, our natural soul-self – our essence, it is our essence, the essence in us. Our inner self includes our passion, our joy, our gifts and talents, our ability to love, our creativity, our emotions and our liveliness.
We enter into this life as our core self, and if that self is loved and appreciated by our parents and other people in our close environment, we will continue to develop our natural individual abilities and talents and the fullness of our being becomes obvious. This self seeks to evolve steadily by learning the necessary abilities that are important to the self’s full development.
But if this self is not recognized and appreciated in the way we need it, we create an alternative to that self. In the hope that with this self we can control the love and affection we need and the pain we can not handle – a self that helps us to feel more secure. It is our apparent self, our wounded self. It is our ego-self.
This made self is filled with false beliefs that we grew up, adopted, and shaped – imprints and beliefs that ultimately limit our true inner selves. This self needs no improvement – but healing.
The term “self-improvement” can sometimes be somewhat misleading because we do not want to improve our wounded self. We do not want to improve the way we better lie, manipulate, and rid ourselves of the temptation to have control over getting love and avoiding pain. We do not want to optimize our many dependencies on material possessions and many other things. We do not want to develop our anger, our subservience, our fear and despondency. We do not want to optimize the limitation of our liveliness. We want to cure this.
Self-healing and self-improvement are not the same thing.
We can certainly improve and develop ourselves when it comes to competences. We can improve ourselves in sports, in art, music, writing, cooking, etc. We can improve our health and well-being by changing our diet and physical activity. We can expand and improve our knowledge so that we become even more successful in the profession and possibly make more money.
Maybe we can improve our relationships by learning new communication skills. But what if the gaining of new knowledge and skills does not improve our health or our ability to earn money, or our relationships? And what if the learning of new skills no longer brings us joy, fulfillment and inner balance? Then that may mean we have to heal the underlying fears and false beliefs that cause us to be worried, anxious, frustrated, stressed, aggressive, guilty, ashamed, withdrawn, accusatory, or sad.
Sometimes, self-improvement simply means developing and practicing skills, and again, sometimes, taking part in a deep healing process. For example, many people try to improve their health through weight loss and exercise. But if their food addiction covers the unhealed wounds, they may not be able to simply change their diet. They may need to open up for a healing process to finally solve their problem.
If you are really trying to improve and develop yourself, but somehow feel stuck and unable to move forward, or find that you are not feeling any joy or inner balance in you, you may want to open yourself to the possibility of unhealed wounds Beliefs block your progression and cause your suffering.
It’s easy to improve if there’s nothing in the way that blocks us. But when you carry old misconceptions about your identity and your value with you, these notions can block your ability to become lovingly active from within your inner core. All your efforts to improve yourself will not give you the satisfaction you seek, as long as false beliefs hinder the unfolding of your true inner self.
If you get stuck, then you have to go through a healing process, a process of inner connection that leads you out of the fears and beliefs that limit you. The healing of these fears and limiting thoughts will in every way open the door to the improvement and unfolding of your life!
Self-development is possible when you discover your true potential and live out of the core of your self.