What to do if I’m jealous
Jealousy is a feeling that can have devastating consequences for a relationship.
Many of us suffer from this negative feeling to some extent.
It is a mixture of different emotions, such as anger, pain, dependency and self-doubt.
Self-doubt arises from the fear of losing something.
In fact, we ourselves create this reality through our own behaviors and actions from the feeling of jealousy.
Now what steps can we take to counter jealousy when it shows us its ugly face?
- Become independent – trust yourself and never make yourself dependent on another person, focus on being independent and focus on what you have in life, not on what you don’t have. Strengthen your self-confidence – for example, treat yourself to a new hairstyle, a wellness day or a new outfit. If you have very little self-confidence, get books or attend a course to strengthen your self-confidence.
- List what makes you jealous – sit down and admit to yourself what triggers your jealousy, list everything and be honest with yourself.
Are they stupid things that make you jealous?
And do they really matter?
- Talk about your fears with the person – sit down and talk to the person who triggers the jealousy in you and let them know how you feel. Is she doing something deliberately to make you jealous? Or without realizing it? If the person is seriously concerned about you, they will usually be more than willing to make changes, since they now know that they were the cause and know the reason why you are suffering.
- Try to assess yourself as best and sincere as possible – be honest with yourself and admitting low self-esteem or low self-esteem can open your eyes and help you investigate the cause and change your feelings.
- Observe the person you are jealous of – look at them openly and honestly, find out what you like about the person and what you dislike about them. Question whether you really see people with realistic eyes.
- Avoid these feelings from spreading – unless jealousy is severe or has been around for a long time, chances are it’s only a fleeting phase that has occurred for various reasons, and with a little luck, this phase will come back pass and your relationship with each other will relax again. Until then, you should try to keep your emotions under control and not let them pull you down.
There are numerous self-help methods that can be used to help those who suffer from severe jealousy.
Some of these include hypnotherapy courses, audio CDs and books.
Any type of relaxation and calming technique can also be helpful, especially if you are experiencing jealousy for the first time.
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